Competition, Models

[From Rick Marken (950904.0930)]

Me:

Bill, your posts on competition have been sensational. It was
competition that was my own undoing in the recent exchanges on the
net. We can't stop being control systems but it really helps if we
understand PCT; it sure helped me.

Marc Abrams (950902.1730) --

Interesting. Are you actually attributing something other then
yourself for those exchanges. Please explain.how competiton was your
undoing.

I am not attributing my competitive behavior to anyone but myself,
though when you are in competition it can seem like you are being
made to act competitively by another person.

Competition is just another word for conflict. Conflict occurs when
two (or more) control systems try to control the same (or a similar)
perceptions relative to different references. It can be difficult to tell
that you are in conflict when you are in it. When you are in conflict, all
you care about is achieving your goal; you might notice that there seems to
be active resistance to your attempts to achieve it, but that is usually
just perceived as an annoyance.

In discussions on the net, I get into conflict because I want to perceive
people saying the "right" things about PCT. Of course, those people are
already saying what is "right" from their perspective, so there is conflict:
I try to correct my perception by saying all kinds of "brilliant" things to
correct what, to me, is the "wrong" perception -- a perception that is wrong
because of what the other person said. My corrections are just a disturbance
to the other person who tries to cancel out my corrections by producing
even more brilliant corrections of their own. This process accelerates
quickkly into tougher and tougher talk, each person tryng to get his or her
perception into the "right" state; things can get ugly fast.

PCT doesn't say, by the way, that there is anything "wrong" with this
kind of competition. Only the individual participants can determine whether
competition (conflict) is right or wrong from their perspective. PCT
just explains what is going on.

You can't see that you are in a conflict until you mentally step out of it
(go up a level). As long as you are just interested in achieving your own
goal (the one that is in conflict with the other person's goal) you won't see
the conflict; you will just see yourself as having a hell of a time getting
your point across.

Once you see that you are in a conflict, you can also see ways to solve it (if
you want to solve it).There are usually many ways to solve a conflict and they
(unlike the conflict itself) are all under your control (one nice thing about
solving conflict is that it puts you back in control, which many people find
to be a pleasant experience); you can avoid the conflicted goal, or change to
controlling an unconflicted goal or lower the gain on control of the
conflicted goal, or defer achievement of the conflicted goal (assume
that the other person will eventually get it), etc.

One of the interesting "real world" problems we have here on CSG net is that
we are teaching a view of human nature that shows us things that are bound
to conflict with many of our existing beliefs and goals. Many of us will
find that some of the revelations of PCT are a disturbance to our most
cherished beliefs. For example, you (Marc) and, I'm sure, many others (like
Robert Radford (9509021800)) find the PCT view of competition (conflict) a
disturbance to a cherished belief (that competition is essential to the
health of an economy). So there is bound to be conflict when we discuss PCT.
The question is what each individual
wants to do about that conflict.

I was trained -- by my teachers, parents, peers -- to be very competitive.
So, naturally, I have taken a very competitive approach to discussions on
the net; conflict was ok with me. I thought I was just trying to be
scientifically honest and correct; what I was really doing was trying to
browbeat people into seeing things my way. I was trying to win.

I now see (having gone up a level and seen the nature of the conflict I was
in) that the best I can do (on this net and in real life) to teach PCT
is just lay out my position, present the evidence and the models as
clearly and as accurately as possible and hope that those who are
interested in PCT come around (as far as they can) to seeing it my way.

You can't force a control system to control the way you want . I have
been acting as though you could. The result of trying to force a control
system to control in a particular way is conflict; and conflict is neither
pleasant nor productive.

People (control systems) will voluntarily learn control theory or they
won't. You can't make someone learn control theory. All you can do is
keep putting the latest and greatest control theory goods in the window
and hope that people will come into the shop and try them out.

Bruce Abbott (950902.2155 EST) --

What it is NOT a model of is the fish.

Yes, that's what I meant to say.

The control-system model is more fundamental...But that does not
make the physicists' model incorrect.

But isn't the physicist's model an incorrect model of the internal
organization of the fish? Isn't it incorrect to view external forces
as the cause of fish behavior, is it?

Me:

Conventional behavior theorists seem to treat modelling as a game:if
a reinforcement model fits the data that's nice but it doesn't mean,
apparently, that all living systems are controlled by reinforcement all
the time (witness how Skinner, for example, exempted himself from
this control).

Bruce:

I'm not defending reinforcement theory here, but I'm not aware that
Skinner did this. Citations, please?

We discussed this earlier and you were not convinced. But I'll repeat it
in case you've had a change of heart.

Skinner claimed that it was his (and our) obligation to systematically
control human behavior because behavior is controlled by environmental
contingencies (reinforcements) anyway. But an understanding of control shows
that it is impossible to exert control (in the PCT sense) if you are
controlled by reinforcement. So Skinner's claim is hollow unless he is
exempt from control by the contingencies that control everyone else.

Best

Rick

From Marc Abrams (950395)

  Richard Marken <marken@AEROSPACE.AERO.ORG> writes:
[From Rick Marken (950904.0930)]

Me:

>Bill, your posts on competition have been sensational. It was
>competition that was my own undoing in the recent exchanges on the
> net. We can't stop being control systems but it really helps if we
>understand PCT; it sure helped me.

Marc Abrams (950902.1730) --

>Interesting. Are you actually attributing something other then
>yourself for those exchanges. Please explain.how competiton was your
>undoing.

I am not attributing my competitive behavior to anyone but myself,
though when you are in competition it can seem like you are being
made to act competitively by another person.

Competition is just another word for conflict. Conflict occurs when
two (or more) control systems try to control the same (or a similar)
perceptions relative to different references. It can be difficult to tell
that you are in conflict when you are in it. When you are in conflict, all
you care about is achieving your goal; you might notice that there seems to
be active resistance to your attempts to achieve it, but that is usually
just perceived as an annoyance.

In discussions on the net, I get into conflict because I want to perceive
people saying the "right" things about PCT. Of course, those people are
already saying what is "right" from their perspective, so there is conflict:
I try to correct my perception by saying all kinds of "brilliant" things to
correct what, to me, is the "wrong" perception -- a perception that is wrong
because of what the other person said. My corrections are just a

disturbance

to the other person who tries to cancel out my corrections by producing
even more brilliant corrections of their own. This process accelerates
quickkly into tougher and tougher talk, each person tryng to get his or her
perception into the "right" state; things can get ugly fast.

Sorry,I don't believe that this is an accurate description of competition. I do
believe it is an accurate
description of conflict.
Instead of escalation Rick, what if someone were to stop and ask a question to
clarify a position. What if the
advocacy without inquiry stopped on both sides. Would you still consider that
conflict or competition?

PCT doesn't say, by the way, that there is anything "wrong" with this
kind of competition.

When you say "kind", did you intend to mean that there are "different" kinds of
conflict and competition. If
so, what kind are you describing?

I also happen to think that there is _plenty_ wrong with this type conflict,
even if PCT doesn't say anything
about it.

Only the individual participants can determine whether
competition (conflict) is right or wrong from their perspective. PCT
just explains what is going on.

From a concept of competition this does not make any sense. Things are

competitive wether _YOU_ want
them to be or not. YOU may choose not to participate and that is your right.
But your exclusion does not
eliminate the competition.

You can't see that you are in a conflict until you mentally step out of it
(go up a level). As long as you are just interested in achieving your own
goal (the one that is in conflict with the other person's goal) you won't

see

the conflict; you will just see yourself as having a hell of a time getting
your point across.

Once you see that you are in a conflict, you can also see ways to solve it

(if

you want to solve it).There are usually many ways to solve a conflict and

they

(unlike the conflict itself) are all under your control (one nice thing

about

solving conflict is that it puts you back in control, which many people find
to be a pleasant experience); you can avoid the conflicted goal, or change

to

controlling an unconflicted goal or lower the gain on control of the
conflicted goal, or defer achievement of the conflicted goal (assume
that the other person will eventually get it), etc.

Hey Rick, How about _ASKING_ the other person WHAT _THEY_ want. And now comes
the hard part, You
actually _LISTEN_ to what the person says and you reflect back with that "new"
information to see if _YOU_
want to adjust either your perception or goals. You are ALWAYS in "control".
Where did the control go
during the conflict? and how does it come back?

One of the interesting "real world" problems we have here on CSG net is that
we are teaching a view of human nature that shows us things that are bound
to conflict with many of our existing beliefs and goals.

I don't think a whole lot of "teaching" goes on. In order to be an _effective_
teacher you actually need to
concern yourself with what _OTHERS_ are concerned with. The big question ( I'am
paraphrasing from
Perry Good) is "What would make this person interested in knowing what I know".
Why would this person
want to know PCT? People love ADVOCATING THIER postion..

Many of us will find that some of the revelations of PCT are a disturbance

to our most

cherished beliefs. For example, you (Marc) and, I'm sure, many others (like
Robert Radford (9509021800)) find the PCT view of competition (conflict) a
disturbance to a cherished belief (that competition is essential to the
health of an economy). So there is bound to be conflict when we discuss

PCT.

This is PCT TEACHING in full bloom. You ADVOCATE a position, assume that what
you say is self evident.
And then assume that NO ONE has a resonable reply. What PCT "revelation" is
disturbing me? Your
OPINION on conflict and competition? If you stood on your head and whistled
dixie I would not accept your
"revelation" about competition and conflict. Come back with a better argument
and set of "facts" and I would
absolutely consider it.

The question is what each individual
wants to do about that conflict.

Good point

I was trained -- by my teachers, parents, peers -- to be very competitive.
So, naturally, I have taken a very competitive approach to discussions on
the net; conflict was ok with me.

Again you seem to attributing how you are reponding TODAY to "training". Sounds
awfully close to This
CAUSES me to Act in this way.
Rick do you actually believe that a person who is in a competitive environment
will always be in conflict? And
if the person is not in conflict are they no longer in a competitive
environment?

I thought I was just trying to be
scientifically honest and correct; what I was really doing was trying to
browbeat people into seeing things my way. I was trying to win.

Yep. How do you account for this with your PCT background? I am seriously
interested. Maybe there are
other considerations when it comes to interpersonal relationships, and PCT
currently does not account for
_all_ the behavior.

I now see (having gone up a level and seen the nature of the conflict I was
in) that the best I can do (on this net and in real life) to teach PCT
is just lay out my position, present the evidence and the models as
clearly and as accurately as possible and hope that those who are
interested in PCT come around (as far as they can) to seeing it my way.

HOPE that people would be interested? Why not ASK. AND NO ONE is interested in
seeing it YOUR way.
NO ONE. They want to _UNDERSTAND_ PCT _THIER way. I believe that each of us
that understands PCT (
I do to a limited extent )has a "slightly" different understanding of what PCT
is. I believe that NO ONE will
ever understand PCT the way Bill P does or Tom B. or Bruce A. or Rick M.
In fact PCT says that can't happen. We all bring our own baggage to the party.

You can't force a control system to control the way you want . I have
been acting as though you could. The result of trying to force a control
system to control in a particular way is conflict; and conflict is neither
pleasant nor productive.

I assume this is not a revelation. If I replace the word "conflict" with
competition and use your definition as
both being equal the above statement makes little sense with regard to
competition.

People (control systems) will voluntarily learn control theory or they
won't. You can't make someone learn control theory. All you can do is
keep putting the latest and greatest control theory goods in the window
and hope that people will come into the shop and try them out.

Actually you can do a great deal more. See my statement on Teaching above.
Your statement has little
relevance to you helping anyone LEARN PCT. I think it's really unfortuante that
this attitude seems to be
prevelant on the Net. Am I the ONLY one who believes that concern , interest,
and respect in what others
are doing will make it easier for people to "learn" this stuff. Do people have
to LEARN it YOUR way. By this I
mean, that when someone attempts to understand some aspect of PCT through THIER
filter, that we try to
understand WHAT thier filter is first.

Marc