[From Bruce Nevin (980722.1123 EDT)]
Rick Marken (980721.2245) --
Thank you for the excellent illustration of the point.
Bruce Nevin (980721.2148 EDT)]
If you are controlling a perception with a reference level of
zero, your monitoring of the environment for disturbances
seems somehow much less specific than when you control for
some positive value.
When you are controlling a perception you are not monitoring
for disturbances (whether by "disturbance" you mean a variable
that influences the state of a controlled perception or
variations in a controlled perception away from its reference
state). You are monitoring the state of the controlled
perception and continuously acting to keep it in the
reference state.
Here is an example of where I got the notion of monitoring the environment
for disturbances:
Bill Powers (980623.1111 MDT)]
[...] A lot of
people are at the hockey rink, performing zero triple axels. Al,
who is monitoring for anyone producing a nonzero amount of
triple axels, experiences no error and takes no action. He is
not controlling for anyone in particular not performing triple >axels, so
he doesn't care if John Belushi is not performing them
on his ice, or if the Pope isn't, or if anyone in particular
isn't. There are zero axels being performed and that is what
Al wants. He is always controlling for seeing zero axels.
Another phrase Bill used here is "controlling for." "Monitoring for
disturbances" is the flip side of "controlling for a perception."
Correction accepted, I agree that you do not normally perceive disturbances
as such. The point is, your attention is a finite resource. When you are
monitoring for anyone producing a nonzero amount of something that you can
perceive, be it triple axels or ways of talking about PCT that don't sound
right to you, your attention is not available for other matters that might
be more productive. It could be anybody. For any one individual, it could
be any of a large variety of actions that disturb the controlled
perceptions. Setting aside triple axels, the possible disturbances to "this
person correctly understands PCT" may even be infinite.
Your answer to "how can we do it better" is "give up." I don't think this
is a useful answer. One answer to conflict is always to give up one of the
things that you care about. There is no reason to suppose that you arrived
at this conclusion by going up a level to why you care about it. There is
no reason to suppose that you will be able to follow through on your your
verbal commitment to give it up, and every reason to suppose that you
won't. It is much easier to give up control of not offending people who
make inaccurate statements about PCT. You care about PCT much more than you
care about the feelings of this individual or that. And in my opinion you
should. But there need not be a conflict.
You are presently controlling a perception of "not alienating, hurting or
otherwise offending the [...] people who are making inaccurate statements
about PCT". While it lasts, this conflicts with your control of "people
making accurate statements about PCT". It might be worth your looking more
closely at how these come into conflict. Perhaps there are means of doing
the latter that do not alienate, hurt, offend, insult, and so on. I
suggested Socratic questioning. I have suggested referring people to their
direct experience of models and demos. My request was for other
suggestions. Alternative means might resolve the conflict in at least some
situations. (The victim of insult etc. also has an active role. It causes
as much trouble to take offense as to give it. After you've decided to play
nice, they can still turn around and give you 20 lashes with a pair of
twisted knickers tied with a TOTE belt. It takes a while for the
repercussions of past conduct to quieten.)
But I am not convinced that this is a necessary or complete or even correct
characterization of the conflict. Can you go up a level to what is behind
the desire to correct people's misstatements?
Putting myself behind that motivation, I perhaps I want the other person to
have the same sort of "aha!" revelation that I had so many years ago. But
this is just my imagining of what it might be like to be Rick Marken doing
this, and probably has no relevance. I just offer it as a f'rinstance of
how divergent and unexpected things might possibly be when you go up a
level or two with this.
That question is the most important in this post: Can you go up a level to
what is behind the desire to correct people's misstatements?
Leaving that, but not abandoning it -- I think it is an extremely
worthwhile project -- here is an entirely different tack. Part of the
problem may be simply jumping to conclusions as to the intentions of the
other person, based upon their use of words. Some Testing to determine what
they intend might be useful. But the appearance of focussing on correct use
of words and phrases lends itself to the perception that CSG bona fides are
a matter of ideological correctness. Off that edge of the map there be
dragons with names like Glasser. In your image they form themselves. If the
image you present is one of correcting the words they use, that is what
they do to others. An alternative is Testing and helping people get clear
about the intentions behind the words. When the understanding is clear, the
words follow. When you are confident that a person's understanding is
clear, you won't waste time nitpicking. "Is this what you mean by that?"
might be enough of a Test for you, reminder for them.
Bruce Nevin