Jackpot!

[From Fred Nickols (980409.1832 EST/EDT who gives a s--t, my clock says
6:32 p.m.) --

Got one!

In replying to Jeff V., Rick M. writes...

People who are in conflict seem to be playing this game. But people
are not always in conflict. The only game people are playing is
control of perception. They can play it independently (as when they
tie their shoes, type a post, write a program, etc) or inter-
dependently (as when they make love, play tennis, make a cathedral
or make conversation). Interdependent control can be cooperative
(which it seems to be almost all the time) or conflictive (which
it is occasionally). Conflictive interdependent control is surely
the most noticeable kind since it produces chronic error in the
parties involved. This is probably why Erhard concluded that conflict
(the win- lose games) is the only game in town. It's not. The only
game in town is control of perception.

I think there's every consultant's dream lurking in the paragraph above
(and I'm not the least bit bashful about thinking out loud or in text,
so let's see what it is).

Control may be independent or interdependent (i.e., one, and more than
one actor).

Interdependent control may be cooperative or conflictive (which I assume
means that reference conditions are aligned or misaligned (in the latter
case, they might even be in opposition).

If I understand PCT at all, independent control can also be conflictive
(i.e., reference conditions at different levels are misaligned or in
conflict).

So, where I arrive is with one side of a matrix having number of actors
(1 and >1), and the other side referring to the alignment of reference
conditions (i.e., aligned and misaligned).

This next step is going to be a real pain in the kazoo so time out while
I construct it.

ยทยทยท

_______________________
                        > > >
                        > > >
                        > > >
                        > II | III |
        Multiple | | |
         Actors | | |
                        >___________|___________|
                        > > >
                        > > >
                        > > >
         Single | I | IV |
         Actor | | |
                        > > >
                        > > >
                        >___________|___________|

                           Aligned Misaligned

In quadrant I, everything is cool. Ditto for quadrant II.

In quandrant III, however, we have interpersonal or intergroup conflict.
In quandrant IV, we have internal conflict.

The general form of the solutions to the conflicts in quadrant III are
widely known, and ABSOLUTELY NONE OF THEM includes anything about the
conflict between reference conditions (although conflicting goals is
often discussed).

Quadrant IV is often left to the "shrinks" to deal with. Does that
always have to be the case?

Anyway, I'll chew some more on this one.

Regards,

Fred Nickols
The Distance Consulting Company
nickols@worldnet.att.net
http://home.att.net/~nickols/distance.htm