[From Brian D'Agostino 951228.1950 Eastern Standard Time]
Responding to Ed Ford's advice against criticizing others, Bill
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Powers wrote on 951220.0930 MST: "I also agree with you about
criticism, if you mean criticizing people rather than ideas or
presentations." In this context, I find the distinction between a
person and his or her ideas less clear and helpful than it appears
on the surface. In the series of exchanges regarding my research,
I argued that beliefs reside at the principle and program levels
and often serve to maintain needs of the self, which I locate at
the system level. Bill made a number of objections to this view,
which I answered in my post of 950930.0610. There were no further
objections.
If my theory is correct--and that is ultimately an empirical
question--criticizing a person's ideas can disturb the self just as
much as criticizing the self directly. Hasn't this been our
experience on CSGnet? If Ed ultimately decides to leave the CSG,
I believe the reason will be because he is tired of participating
in discussions that are ostensibly on the level of ideas, but which
are ultimately about the endless dynamics of attacking and
defending the self.
So, where does this leave the CSG? Based on what I have observed
from the CSGnet, I am not optimistic that the major partipants have
any real desire to change this pattern, and I certainly can't blame
Ed if he also comes to this conclusion, or has already come to it.
If there is a solution, however, the responsibility for discovering
and implementing it rests with you innocent ones who feel that the
only higher order value you are maintaining on CSGnet is "the
truth." For all you folks, I have two suggestions.
First, stop assuming you adequately understand the other person's
frame of reference. If the other person says something that sounds
wrong to you, instead of criticizing it, tell him or her what you
don't understand and give them a chance to explain it more
adequately. Practiced as an iterative process, this should
culminate either in mutual understanding or one person abandoning
the discussion because he or she finds it moving in an
unproductive direction. In the latter case, the other person will
not feel under attack, as we so often feel on CSGnet.
Second, when you encounter what you perceive as scientific error,
ask yourself what part of _you_ feels disturbed. Can you take a
vacation from defending the truth, and instead start to turn some
attention to that part of yourself and start to express it to
yourself and to your antagonists on the CSGnet? Can you start to
describe to them how their errors or criticisms of your ideas make
you _feel_? Can you start to reflect on where these feelings
come from, and how you got to be programmed like that? Such
reflection and discussion may prove therapuetic, or it may prove a
waste of time, but haven't you already wasted lots of time on
CSGnet? What have you've got to lose?
I would hate to see this group disintegrate or continue squandering
its intellectual energies on polemical debates. My comments were
offered to help avert such outcomes, if that is still possible.
Happy New Year, and best regards,
Brian