Lack of Words can sometimes also Hurt

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[From Dick Robertson,2003.12.24.1800CST]

Sometimes a lack of words can also hurt. (Again, of course, only if one has a
certain reference value.) For example, if I address a direct question or
comment to someone on the net and never see any reply, it leaves me wondering
if just the sight of my name in the sender column leads to the reject button.
That can only hurt if I was fancying myself of enough importance to the
receiver as to expect a reply of course.

Anyhow, Happy holidays to all.

Best. Dick R.

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[From Rick Marken (2003.12.24.1720)]

Dick Robertson (2003.12.24.1800CST)

Sometimes a lack of words can also hurt. (Again, of course, only if
one has a
certain reference value.) For example, if I address a direct
question or
comment to someone on the net and never see any reply, it leaves me
wondering
if just the sight of my name in the sender column leads to the reject
button.
That can only hurt if I was fancying myself of enough importance to the
receiver as to expect a reply of course.

I sure hope I was not the cause of any hurt to you. I looked back over
the last couple weeks of posts and I think I replied to all the
questions that you addressed to me. But if I missed something, it was
certainly unintentional. I see you as very important -- more
important, perhaps, than even you fancy yourself.

Anyhow, Happy holidays to all.

Same to you. And happy birthday to the nice rabbi whose birthday we
celebrate tomorrow.

Best

Rick

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Hey Dick Robertson on 03.12.24: Happy holidays to you, too, and also
all happy un-holidays. --Phil R.

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[From Bill Williams 24 December 2003 8:13 PM CST]

Dick,

Your twist of a previous thread to, "Lack of Words can sometimes also Hurt" puts a nice spin on the question of how and why "words can hurt."

It led me to consider the question, how I was ( Conjecturally I want you to understand. ) hurt by the dog that didn't bite.

Words can have a "bite." So, I suppose that words that aren't said, might also have a "bite."

I think we are in need of, once again, a consultation by Bruce Nevin on the topic of equivocation.

Bill Williams

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[From Dick Robertson,2003.12.29.0838CDT]

Rick Marken wrote:

[From Rick Marken (2003.12.24.1720)]

> Dick Robertson (2003.12.24.1800CST)
>
> Sometimes a lack of words can also hurt. (Again, of course, only if
> one has a
> certain reference value.) For example, if I address a direct
> question or
> comment to someone on the net and never see any reply, it leaves me
> wondering
> if just the sight of my name in the sender column leads to the reject
> button.
> That can only hurt if I was fancying myself of enough importance to the
> receiver as to expect a reply of course.

I sure hope I was not the cause of any hurt to you. I looked back over
the last couple weeks of posts and I think I replied to all the
questions that you addressed to me. But if I missed something, it was
certainly unintentional. I see you as very important -- more
important, perhaps, than even you fancy yourself.

Thanks, Rick, I appreciate your consideration, but no, I don't feel
disregarded by you.

Best, Dick R.

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