from [ Marc Abrams (990430.1347) ]
I think it's kind of ironic that PCT stresses the importance of what our
internal goals are and here we are spending oodles of time trying to figure
out what _someone_ else is trying to control for 
Maybe we should turn the search inward for some possibilities. I did some
more reflecting about what I might be controlling for with regard to "PCT
friends" and what was it that was annoying me so much about what Rick was
doing. ( this is becoming habit forming and fun
) This is what I came up
with.
Learning PCT is a long process. There is probably more to _unlearn_ then
there is to learn. Currently no one can tell you exactly how long it will
take, and what the best path might be for "getting it". Each of us _must_
come by it in our own way and time. The commonality though in being able to
get _any_ understanding is to keep an _OPEN DIALOGUE_ going with people.
People who show a curiosity and interest in PCT _must_ be _communicated_
with. That means ( at least with me ) that we must be _patient_. _ALL_ of us
have come to CSG with baggage. That baggage is not _evil_
It's who we
are. It must be unlearned. This can _only_ be done by the individual. No one
can do it for them, no one can even help them walk the last mile. It's
something that must be a personal experience.
I am not interested in "selling" PCT. I am interested in encouraging people
to look at it. I want to maintain a dialogue with people who are like wise
interested. To do this you must be willing to accept the baggage that comes
with the individual. If one perspective doesn't do it, lets explain it again
from a different one. If were really trying to do something novel we might
even take the time to try and understand _why_ a person is having a
difficult time. Sorta like an unofficial semi-rigorous "test".
I believe Rick, _at times_, ( not all the time, but enough times to make it
real annoying
) defeats this purpose. When Bruce Gregory called Rick an
"Enemy" of PCT. That is what he was talking about. Rick closes down lines of
communication by insisting that people are idiots and that no one except for
him ( and Bill, and Mary of course
) is _really_ interested in learning
PCT. How the hell would he know? :-). After getting bashed by Rick, who
sticks around. Granted, Some people really deserve it, but do we need to
throw out the baby with the bath water?
Working with people with regard to learning PCT is not easy. What seems
pretty self evident _AFTER_ you have begun to understand it is anything but.
I realize now that I have been on the net for close to 5 years and I am
_FIRST_ beginning to understand it. I thought I understood it after the
first 5 minutes and then after every 15 minutes :-). It's just one kick the
pants after another. But what a hell of a ride.
I don't know why ( not yet, but this is my next self-reflection project
) but I like sharing good things with people. I like and enjoy good
friends and good talk. I am not interested in "sharing" _my_ knowledge of
PCT as much as I would like others to experience the _learning_ of it. It's
breath taking. No, I don't believe I am being overly dramatic. It is not my
intent. But when you combine the dumped knowledge with the new insights it
gets pretty damn interesting.
Any reactions?
Marc