Gah! I’m having the damnedest time successfully sending this to the list. This time, even though I’m now in a place protected from interruptions and distractions I’m not going to bother reformatting it as a new message, I’ll just let it be a forwarded message.
Reference it with this morning’s date tag:
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[Bruce Nevin 2018-07-14_08:09:40 ET]
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[Bruce Nevin 2018-07-14_08:09:40 ET]
Rick Marken Jul 13, 2018, 8:33 PM –
You forgot to send this to CSGNet. That is, if you intended to send it there. I think it would be good to send it to CSGNet.
Thanks for catching that, Rick. So now, even more belatedly …
Bruce Nevin 2018-07-13_16:58:27 ET (just to Rick) –
So you are just send this to me?Â
​BN: Really, Rick? You’re going to dismiss this thread by redefining conflict so that only intractable conflicts are real conflicts?​ So this means that MOL is only successful with conflicts that aren’t real conflicts?
 RM: I shouldn’t have used the term “real” Of course, all conflicts are real. It’s just that little everyday conflicts are solved really quickly because the goals involved are much more easily revised for some reason. For example, I often get in conflicts where I want to do two things at once that require that I be in two different places at the same time. For example, I want to carry the dishes to the kitchen and, at the same time, put the napkins away in the dining room hutch. I’m frozen in one place for a moment (my location is the variable in conflict) but I quickly become aware of the problem and realize that the goals don’t have to be achieved simultaneously; so a higher level system flips a coin and I put the napkins away and then the dishes.Â
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BN: Note that I have never said that MOL resolves every conflict in this way. Maybe the parent in your case wants IMax or 3D or surround sound experiences that are not available at home. Sometimes you have to decide what’s more important. I only said that this is one way in which I have observed conflicts being resolved in myself and in others, and more obviously interpersonal conflicts (which is where this thread began).Â
RM: I don’t doubt that conflicts can be resolved by finding alternate means to control higher level variables. But I’m trying to emphasize that this actually involves a change in the goal(s) that are creating the conflict.Â
​BN: Again, I deny your redefinition of conflict. There are real conflicts that get resolved. Most conflicts are actually transient and scarcely noticed. For their duration, they are real conflicts. Do I have to search and find where Bill talked about this very thing before you will accept it?​
 RM: As you can see from what I said above, I’m well aware of the factt hat conflicts can be transient. One example was Bill’s sudden application of torque to Dag’s steering wheel. During the brief time that this force was applied there was a conflict over teh position of the wheel between Dag and Bill. The conflict went away as soon as Bill let go of the wheel.Â
​BN: This, again, is not what I just said. I did not say that person A stopped controlling goal A or that person B stopped controlling goal C. I said that one of them started controlling their higher-level goal in a way that did not require them to control variable C. Person A noticed that variable D could be controlled as part of the environmental feedback function for controlling variable A at the higher level, and as soon as she started controlling D as means of controlling A, the conflict disappeared. After that change, person A was controlling perception A (by means of D) with no conflict and person B was controlling perception B (by means of C) with no conflict. Can I say it any more plainly, clearly, and explicitly than that? This is illustrated by the example of two people in conflict over the car key.
RM: Too many letters for me;-) And you really have to stop with this environmental feedback function crap; it has nothing at all to do with conflict. But the only solution to the car location (or key location) conflict is for one (or both) parties to change their goal for using that same car (or those same keys)Â as the means of achieving their higher level goals.Â
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BN: As above, are you saying that by definition there are no alternative means of controlling one of the higher-level variables?
RM: No.Â
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​BN: It would be nice if C.a and C.b were clear and unambiguous and incapable of being misinterpreted. In fact, posts here use words that are ambiguous in ways that are not always clear​, and readers of these posts are sometime too little concerned to inquire whether what they think was said was in fact what was intended.Â
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​BN: No, I agree, that’s highly unlikely. What I just wrote suggests an alternative.​
RM: I do think it’s important to try to be as clear as possible but I don’t think it’s possible to be perfectly clear. And even if it were, I don’t see how this would solve the conflict. Unless you think that everyone one CSGNet has the exact same understanding of PCT and that all the conflict is just a result of verbal misunderstandings. As I said before, I don’t believe this because I had no such conflicts with Bill (nor him with me). We sometimes disagreed but we always ended up reaching agreement, usually because I saw that he was right but sometimes (I think once) because he saw I was right.Â
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​BN: Yes, this reduces the ambiguity, but the description and interpretation of even these results has sometimes been a matter of dispute.
RM: Of course. But, again, it worked for Bill and me so I think most of these disputes are usually just because what the data and demonstrations show conflicts with people’s agendas. Â
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BN: Hear, hear! ​Here’s one essential ground rule: ​"Seek first to understand, and then to be understood."​
 RM: Everyone understanding in the context of their own agendas (references for the principles and system concepts they held dear prior to coming top PCT. I think that when, in arguments, people say “you just refuse to understand me” what they are really saying is "you just refuse to see that I’m right. The best people can do is try to understand each other and be understood in the context of their own prejudices. It’s silly to tell people to seek to understand and then to be understood. What people have to learn is the best techniques we know of to communicate and gain understanding. And I believe those are the techniques of scientific interaction. This kind of interaction is very likely to be conflictive, especially when people are controlling for high gain for understandings that conflict with the ones being demonstrated. And that’s what we’ve got on CSGNet. It has always been thus. Perhaps you’ve noticed that most of the conflict on CSGNet, since its inception, has been Bill, Tom B. and myself versus everyone else. That’s because everyone else had agendas that conflicted with PCT in one way or another. There is nothing that can be done about this except wait for a few generations of the people who hold these agendas to pass away.Â
BN: The form of your responses is often “This is what you said but that’s wrong and this is what is correct.”
RM: I think you are thinking of Martin, not me. Martin does this to me all the time. I don’t believe I have ever said such a thing. I only reply to my understanding of what a person said. If I misunderstood I assume that the person will set me straight.Â
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BN: I invite you to consider this alternative form of responding:Â Paraphrase what you read, using your preferred words, and add “This is what I think you’re saying. Is that what you mean?”
 RM: I have done this. I think it’s a waste of time. Normal conversation worked between Bill and me, it works with many other people with whom I communicate about PCT (Henry Yin, Tim Carey). The only people I have this problem are people on CSGNet who have (and have always had) agendas that conflict with certain aspects of PCT. They fought with Bill and me when he was here and they are redoubling their efforts on me now that it’s just me. This will not be solved with “better understanding” of what we say to each other. It will happen when people abandon their goals (agendas) that are preventing them from doing PCT correctly.
BestÂ
Rick
On Tue, Jul 3, 2018 at 3:19 PM Richard Marken csgnet@lists.illinois.edu wrote:
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Richard S. MarkenÂ
"Perfection is achieved not when you have nothing more to add, but when you
have nothing left to take away.�
                --Antoine de Saint-Exupery
RM: If I’m understanding you correctly, what you describe is a situation where the conflict was not a real conflict but, rather, a failure of control due to lack of knowledge. Maybe if you describe what the conflict was and how it was solved by employing a new lower level means I would understand it better.Â
RM: I think what you are proposing is that the conflict that is preventing both higher level goals from being achieved can be solved by finding new means of achieving these goals. My point is that in a real conflict there is no way to use alternative means (like driving a car instead of walking or using a beaming system a la Star Trek) to resolve the conflict, in the sense of allowing achievement of the higher level goals that are creating the conflict.
RM: If the solution to the conflict is controlling either A or B then there was a change in goals, not the means used to achieve them.
RM: The conflict exists because you want both A and B but there is no means of achieving both simultaneously.
RM: The only way I can see to resolve this conflict is for those controlling for A to stop controlling for A or to start controlling for B or for those controlling for B to stop controlling for B or to start controlling for A. If A is my perception of PCT and B is someone else’s perception of PCT then it looks to me like the only way to actually stop conflicts on CSGNet is for everyone to start controlling for my version of PCT or for everyone (including me) to start controlling for someone else’s version of PCT. And I just don’t see that happening.Â
RM: I think conflict like what we see on CSGNet is just a natural part of scientific discussion. The ideal way to resolve such conflicts is through empirical test of clearly formulated “working” models.
RM: But this ideal is rarely achieved. So I think the way to deal with conflicts on CSGNet , to the extent that empirical tests of models are not performed or are not convincing – is to try to carry them out as civilly and cordially as possible.Â
[Rick Marken 2018-07-03_12:18:47]
​[Bruce Nevin 2018-07-02_16:16:13 ET]​
RM: It sounds like you solved an internal conflict by abandoning one of the two goals.Â
BN: Well, of course, that is one obvious kind of resolution–one goal is abandoned or deferred or controlled at greatly lower gain, under the higher-level perception that it pales in importance compared to the other goal. But there is at least one other kind of resolution that for some reason it seems to be difficult for you to see. Maybe you’re controlling the invigorating experience of conflict with higher gain. In this other kind of resolution of conflict, which I have seen in several people on several occasions, one of the two higher-level goals was achieved by employing new lower-level means of controlling it in place of the means of control that was in conflict, and the other system continued to control its higher-level goal by means of controlling the original lower-level variable that now was no longer the locus of conflict.
RM: If I’m understanding you correctly, what you describe is a situation where the conflict was not a real conflict but, rather, a failure of control due to lack of knowledge. Maybe if you describe what the conflict was and how it was solved by employing a new lower level means I would understand it better.Â
RM: In what I consider a “real” conflict, the same lower level “means” must be in different reference states at the same time in order to achieve two different higher level goals. For example, the goals of going to the movies and staying home with your sick child requires that the means of achieving these goals – varying your location-- be in two different states at the same time, a physical impossibility. You can solve this conflict if you can change goals – for example, change the goal of staying home with the child to getting someone you trust to stay at home with the child – but as long as the goals require incompatible means – in this case, that you be in two places at the same time–there is no way to add new means that will solve the conflict.
RM: Real conflicts are always solved by going "up a level" – reorganizing the higher level systems that are causing the conflict. Real conflicts can’t be solved by going “down a level” to reorganize the means used to achieve the goals of the higher level systems.
RM: I don’t consider (1) seriously because I know it won’t work; conflicts simply can’t be resolved by finding new, clever means of controlling the variable in conflict.Â
BN: I agree thatÂ
conflicts can’t be resolved by finding new means of controlling the variable in conflict. But that isn’t what I said. Obviously, continuing a conflict by other means does not resolve the conflict, it continues the conflict by other means. I would be quite foolish to propose that it resolved the conflict, wouldn’t I. Was it invigorating to knock down that straw man?
RM: You are right; the way I said it sounds like a straw man. I don’t think you proposed that conflicts can be resolved by finding a new means of controlling “the variable in conflict”; that would be like finding a new way to vary your location as a way to solve the conflict resulting from having the higher level goals of going to the moves and staying home with the sick child.Â
RM: I think what you are proposing is that the conflict that is preventing both higher level goals from being achieved can be solved by finding new means of achieving these goals. My point is that in a real conflict there is no way to use alternative means (like driving a car instead of walking or using a beaming system a la Star Trek) to resolve the conflict, in the sense of allowing achievement of the higher level goals that are creating the conflict.
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BN: By definition of conflict, the conflicting control systems are attempting to control the same variable at different values. But these are hierarchical systems. Each is attempting to control the conflicted variable for a reason. In control system A control of the conflicted variable C is means of controlling higher-level variable(s) A, and in control system B  control of the conflicted variable C is means of controlling higher-level variable(s) B. Â
RM: Correct. Variable C is like your physical location in the conflict between going to (being located at) the movies (the goal of system A) and staying (being located at) home with the sick child (the goal of system B). Â
BN: The relation of variables A and B is unspecified here.
RM: In a conflict, the relationship between the variables controlled by systems A and B matters only in the fact that both systems must set different references for variable C to achieve their goals.Â
BN: It might be important to specify them and their relationship, and in fact I do believe that understanding what they are and how they are related is both important and useful.Â
RM: Yes, becoming aware of the higher level goals that are the cause of the conflict is a fundamental components of MOL.Â
BN: …Here, we’re just talking about the availability of alternative means of controlling A and/or of controlling B, and how conflict can disappear when one of the conflicting hierarchical systems starts using non-conflicting means to provide input that enables control at the higher level of perception A or perception B.
RM: If the solution to the conflict is controlling either A or B then there was a change in goals, not the means used to achieve them. The conflict exists because you want both A and B but there is no means of achieving both simultaneously. If getting control of either A or B is the solution to the conflict then the solution has involved a change in goals – you no longer want A and B, you just want either A or B – not the means of achieving them.
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BN: Applying this principle to conflicts on CSGnet doesn’t seem to me to be a simple and obvious matter, given the complexities of human motivations and means outside laboratory constraints, but it does seem to me to be worth serious consideration.
RM: The problems on CSGNet are interpersonal conflicts. The variables A and B are the perceptions of PCT controlled by different people. The variable C is the means used by the different people to control for A and B. These means involve writing posts like this, trying to communicate our ideas about various aspects of PCT. The variable C used by people to control for A can be called C.a and the variable C used by people to control for B can be called C.b. A person controlling for A says things (variable C.a) that are a disturbance to variable B and a person controlling variable B corrects this disturbance by saying things (variable C.b) that are a disturbance to variable A. That’s the conflict; the same means (C, posting on CSGNet) is used to control two slightly different perceptions of PCT (A and B), relative to different reference specifications.
RM: The only way I can see to resolve this conflict is for those controlling for A to stop controlling for A or to start controlling for B or for those controlling for B to stop controlling for B or to start controlling for A. If A is my perception of PCT and B is someone else’s perception of PCT then it looks to me like the only way to actually stop conflicts on CSGNet is for everyone to start controlling for my version of PCT or for everyone (including me) to start controlling for someone else’s version of PCT. And I just don’t see that happening.Â
RM: I think conflict like what we see on CSGNet is just a natural part of scientific discussion. The ideal way to resolve such conflicts is through empirical test of clearly formulated “working” models. But this ideal is rarely achieved. So I think the way to deal with conflicts on CSGNet , to the extent that empirical tests of models are not performed or are not convincing – is to try to carry them out as civilly and cordially as possible.Â
BestÂ
Rick
/Bruce
On Mon, Jul 2, 2018 at 12:18 PM Richard Marken csgnet@lists.illinois.edu wrote:
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Richard S. MarkenÂ
"Perfection is achieved not when you have nothing more to add, but when you
have nothing left to take away.�
                --Antoine de Saint-Exupery
[Rick Marken 2018-07-02_09:12:46]
[Bruce Nevin 2018-07-01_23:39:03 ET]
BN: This is part of what I understand from your words.
BN: 1. You do not consider it possible for there to be alternative ways to present a “correct analysis of purposeful behavior on CSGNet” ("alternative means"Â that you have not considered).
RM: Of course there are alternative ways to present a correct analysis of purposeful behavior on CSGNet. I’ve used many alternative means of presenting such an analysis: verbal description, visualization via diagrams, computer demonstrations, analogies, fitting the model to existing data. I’ve got three books that are collections of my published (and a few unpublished) papers describing all kinds of different ways of presenting PCT. But when there is a conflict there is no way to vary the means that affect the state of the controlled variable that will resolve the conflict.
RM: The variable that is in conflict here on CSGNet is PCT itself. The conflict exists because people on this net either perceive PCT somewhat differently or they have somewhat different references of what constitutes the correct state of this perception. The different means used to control this perception are the different things we say in our posts. No matter how one varies these means to bring their own perception of PCT to its reference, those means (posts) are bound to be a disturbance to others who either perceive PCT differently or have a different reference for the same perceptual variable.Â
BN: You believe that any means of controlling this perception (“a correct analysis of purposeful behavior being presented on CSGNet”) will continue or renew the conflict in which you find yourself.
RM: Yes, I believe it because that is how I understand conflicts to work from a PCT perspective. The only way to eliminate such conflicts (and achieve peace) is for one or both of the parties to the conflict to revise how they perceive PCT or to revise their references (goal) for the correct state of the PCT perceptual variable. Both approaches require a willingness to learn – to reorganize their existing control systems. Varying the means of control (the content of the posts)Â
won’t work.
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BN: 2. You control a perception of being “invigorated” by conflict. This control may preclude and certainly conflicts with your having any interest in what might reduce or resolve conflict, so you are unlikely to consider (1) seriously. Â
RM: As I mentioned above, I don’t consider (1) seriously because I know it won’t work; conflicts simply can’t be resolved by finding new, clever means of controlling the variable in conflict. I am personally invigorated by the conflicts on CSGNet about PCT because I know that PCT is a hugely revolutionary new approach to understanding behavior and I am invigorated by being part of the resistance to attempts to present Bill’s revolutionary vision in a way that will be more acceptable to the “establishment”.Â
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BN: You reject out of hand the possibility of resolving conflict by using alternative means for one of the two goals. I report that I have empirically observed this as an outcome of the MoL process. When ‘going up a level’ (so called) enabled both goals to be in awareness at the same time, alternative, non-conflicting means of achieving one of the two goals became obvious, which previously had not been considered.
RM: It sounds like you solved an internal conflict by abandoning one of the two goals. This would certainly work in the case of arguments about PCT if one person were willing to give up their goal regarding what they thought was the correct state of the perception of PCT. But maybe you could describe an actual case of solving an interpersonal (not intrapersonal) conflict amicably by having one party to the conflict change the means of control. It would be great if that could be done.Â
Best
Rick
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/Bruce
On Sun, Jul 1, 2018 at 6:18 PM Richard Marken csgnet@lists.illinois.edu wrote:
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Richard S. MarkenÂ
"Perfection is achieved not when you have nothing more to add, but when you
have nothing left to take away.�
                --Antoine de Saint-Exupery
[Rick Marken 2018-07-01_15:17:23]
[Bruce Nevin 2018-06-30_09:20:59 ET]
BN: Part of my role in the Martha’s Vineyard Peace Council is to choose among applicants for the Embarking Peacemaker Award, a tiny award from our tiny budget. Each year 20 or 30 graduating seniors write an essay on their commitment to helping make peace in the world.Â
BN: This year in the award letters, and in the regret letters to those beyond our budget, I included the following paragraph expressing a practical application of the principles behind the Method of Levels:
Falling
into conflict is as easy as closing your eyes. All it takes is not
paying attention as purposes cross, and purposes cross all the time.
To resolve conflict we have to be more alert. The place where two
purposes cross is where both try to use the same means. When we shift
attention from how to why we want to do a thing—
from
the means that we think we need to the end result that we really
want—
we can
notice the alternative means that are available.
​BN: Perhaps this way of putting it may be useful to you. Perhaps it may even have application to our conversations here.​
RM: If only it were that simple. But it’s not alternative means that solve conflicts; it’s alternative goals. And changing goals is not exactly easy. For example, I could quickly solve my conflicts with people on CSGNet is I could just change my goal of having what I think is a correct analysis of purposeful behavior presented on CSGNet to the goal of having an incorrect analysis presented. I don;t think all the MOL in the world could get me to be able to do that. Especially because I often find the conflict rather invigorating.Â
Best
Rick
​/Bruce​
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–
Richard S. MarkenÂ
"Perfection is achieved not when you have nothing more to add, but when you
have nothing left to take away.�
                --Antoine de Saint-Exupery