MOL

[From Bill Powers (980822.0244 MDT)]

Bruce Kodish 980821.21:00 PT--

In a message dated 98-08-21 19:41:49 EDT, Tim Cary wrote:

<<
I heard a catchy phrase once from a course I did (NLP I think) ... "If you
always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always
got"
>>

Hi Tim,

Just to confuse things ( 8-> ), from a PCT point of view (at least the way I
understand it) that doesn't seem accurate.

Very nice catch, Bruce K. Goes to show you how we let words push us around.
Of course if you translate "do" into "control for" it comes out a little
different, doesn't it?

Best,

Bill P.

[From Bruce Kodish 980822.08:45 PDT]

To Bill Powers with comments for Dick Robertson:

Re your comments below:
<<
[From Bill Powers (980822.0244 MDT)]

Bruce Kodish 980821.21:00 PT--

>In a message dated 98-08-21 19:41:49 EDT, Tim Cary wrote:
>
><<
> I heard a catchy phrase once from a course I did (NLP I think) ... "If you
> always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always
> got"
> >>
>
>Hi Tim,
>
>Just to confuse things ( 8-> ), from a PCT point of view (at least the way I
>understand it) that doesn't seem accurate.

Very nice catch, Bruce K. Goes to show you how we let words push us around.
Of course if you translate "do" into "control for" it comes out a little
different, doesn't it?

Best,

Bill P.

  >>

Hi Bill,

With that translation the quote doesn't appear inconsistent with PCT.
Although it's common parlance to talk as if the words have meanings, i.e.,
"push us around" [I talk that way myself sometimes], it seems useful to
remember that how I interpret a sequence of words like Tim's quote more
accurately qualifies as a perception that I control for.

As you point out here, it might under some circumstances serve me better to
control for another 'word-meaning' perception. With the interpretation that
you suggest, I have some new options for controlling differently,i.e., in my
conversations with Tim. So in that sense the quote applies to our discussion
about the quote. Flexibility in controlling for different 'meanings' seems
useful.

Interesting to hear of your history at Northwestern with Irving [not Oliver]
J. Lee. Unless you took a g-s course there with a cousin of his. 8->. I
envy you. The Institute of General Semantics made a tape of a series of
lectures that he gave on t.v. in , I believe, 1952. Seeing that, I felt
greatly impressed with his mastery as a communicator/teacher. He
unfortunately died young in the late 50's of cancer.

Hayakawa, certainly knew how to tap dance didn't he? His relation to
Korzybski's work has some rough analogy to Glasser in relation to you. Not to
disparage Hayakawa too much! [Actually, I have found some useful things in
Glasser's writings. They did lead me to you after all. However, Glasser ,
IMO doesn't control much for rigor and his speculations, IMO, often get stated
with more assurance than they deserve.] Hayakawa's writing, in its own right,
seems a great deal more rigorous than Glasser's.

Unfortunately, Hayakawa distorted some significant aspects of Korzybski's
work.
His "ladder of abstraction'" doesn't really get to the hierachical nature of
the abstracting (perceiving) process or the circular relation of it to
behavior (action) which Korzybski emphasized often. Korzybski though didn't
have very much of an understanding of the mechanism involved. That's what you
have developed much further.

In relation to this, Dick Robertson wrote a few things that I would like to
comment on:

Thanks for your kind words about IMP. I have read Hyakawa, and I think

I even took a course from him. I thought there was quite a bit of value
in General Semantics during my graduate school years, but once I got
into PCT I haven't continued any further with it. I also have had some
Alexander work with a friend who was simultaneously training in
Bioenergetics. I then went through Bioenergetic training and use it
sometimes in my practice. I adds a lot to my understanding of us humans
as a body, first of all. For a while I tried to relate it with PCT, but
in the end I decided they were orthogonal, sort of like physicists need
two ways to think about light. In the end you might find that GEN Sem
continues valuable for you but that you can't "combine" it with
PCT--except maybe as a way of understanding a class of variables that we
control.>>

Dick, the exception that you note here [I take that you're referring to
language, symbol using, i.e, the higher hierachical levels of control which
Korzybski particularly focused on], definitely has great interest to me as an
area of study in relation to PCT. I personally make an assumption of the
unity of nature (ourselves included). Korzybski's work, distorted by
Hayakawa, was focused on the unification of the sciences and establishing a
foundation for, as he put it, "a science of man". PCT obviously has
implications for this. If some of Korzybski's claims appear at odds with PCT,
I will not feel happy about leaving inconsistencies lie. I will want to
examine and revise what I can, based on applying a scientific attitude in the
best way I can.

Sometimes as you note, viewpoints or theories [like PCT and Bioenergetics]
seem orthogonal and we deal with it. I personally think that Reich and Lowen
'had their fingers' on some very significant phenomena and techniques. I also
think that until someone finds a way of connecting their work to the body of
accepted science, they will remain on the fringe, however useful some of
their stuff may be. What if PCT does have some useful connection to
Bioenergetics that could help Bioenergitics become more rigorous as a theory?

Having seen enough of the CSG archive material, I feel loath to join the
chorus of those who in discovering PCT then decide they need to tell you guys
that I or my favorite thinker, theory etc. had already been there. As I
said, Korzybski was moving towards but didn't grasp with any exactness the
mechanism of hierachical control by negative feedback. If you feel that I
ever try to fit the round peg of PCT in the square hole of something else
where it doesn't fit, then by all means say something. My primary intention
here is to learn PCT from the experts.

Enough,

Bruce Kodish

980822 08:00 PST David Wolsk wrote:

[From Tim Carey (980821.18590)]

[From Bill Powers (980820.2113 MDT)]

I like this randomness idea. What do you think about explaining the
reorganisation process to her (particularly the idea that things might even
seem a bit out of control for a while)? Is this
important/necessary/beneficial? What would be the important things to make
her aware of?

Hi Tim,

Your comments to Bill reminded me of my experiences with the metacognitive
aspects of Feuerstein's Instrumental Enrichment Curriculum ....... a
powerful approach for focussing learner's on thinking and problem solving
processes. I was using it with mentally handicapped adults. Most of them
not only learned the word METACOGNITIVE but changed their self-concepts. .

I've appreciated your sharing of the MOL sessions ...... and Bill's helpful
comments. I suspect there may be a wider audience for this dialogue.

David
Victoria, BC Canada

···

At 18:45 21/08/98 +1000, you wrote:

[From Tim Carey (980823.0800)]

980822 08:00 PST David Wolsk wrote:

I've appreciated your sharing of the MOL sessions ...... and Bill's

helpful

comments. I suspect there may be a wider audience for this dialogue.

Thanks for the comments David.

Tim

[From Tim Carey (980823.0800)]

[From Bruce Kodish 980821.21:00 PT]

If I have nigh exactly the 'same' motor output each time say I turn into

my

driveway with my car, I'm going to get different outcomes each time,

perhaps

quite undesirable outcomes.

Hi Bruce. This is a bit of old news now as I see Bill has already replied.
For me the issue you raised has to do with what we "do". From a PCT
perspective (at least from my understanding of PCT ;-)) what we "do" is
control perceptual input, we don't "do" motor output.

Tim, what understanding does the quote you mentioned seek to convey? I

have

heard it quoted a number of times. What insight does it provide for you?

And

could it get stated differently to take into account the notion of

variable

actions for relatively invariant outcomes?

Some interesting questions Bruce but I rarely think of or use that quote
anymore. The comments Bill made just twigged my memory (how's that for a
PCT statement) and it seemed that mentioning that comment was appropriate.
The insight it provides for me now is what Bill was explaining with his
reorganisation post.

Regards,

Tim

[From Dick Robertson, 980822,2346CDT]

  Bruce Kodish 980821.21:00 PT--

it seems useful to
remember that how I interpret a sequence of words like Tim's quote more
accurately qualifies as a perception that I control for.

Yes, and that reminds me of what I did find most valuable, personally,
in the contact I had with GEn Semantics: the attempt for more precision
in language by "going down the ladder of abstraction." to make sure that
a reader or listener would get some tangible instance of whatever
abstract point I would try to make.

As you point out here, it might under some circumstances serve me better to
control for another 'word-meaning' perception. With the interpretation that
you suggest, I have some new options for controlling differently,i.e., in my
conversations with Tim. So in that sense the quote applies to our discussion
about the quote. Flexibility in controlling for different 'meanings' seems
useful.

Yeah.

His "ladder of abstraction'" doesn't really get to the hierachical >nature of the abstracting (perceiving) process or the circular relation of it to
behavior (action) which Korzybski emphasized often. Korzybski though >didn't
have very much of an understanding of the mechanism involved. That's >what you have developed much further.

In relation to this, Dick Robertson wrote a few things that I would like to
comment on:

>>Thanks for your kind words about IMP. I have read Hyakawa, and I think
I even took a course from him. I thought there was quite a bit of value
in General Semantics during my graduate school years, but once I got
into PCT I haven't continued any further with it. I also have had some
Alexander work with a friend who was simultaneously training in
Bioenergetics. I then went through Bioenergetic training and use it
sometimes in my practice. I adds a lot to my understanding of us humans
as a body, first of all. For a while I tried to relate it with PCT, but
in the end I decided they were orthogonal, sort of like physicists need
two ways to think about light. In the end you might find that GEN Sem
continues valuable for you but that you can't "combine" it with
PCT--except maybe as a way of understanding a class of variables that we
control.>>

Dick, the exception that you note here [I take that you're referring to
language, symbol using, i.e, the higher hierachical levels of control which
Korzybski particularly focused on], definitely has great interest to me as an
area of study in relation to PCT. I personally make an assumption of the unity of nature (ourselves included). Korzybski's work, distorted by Hayakawa, was focused on the unification of the sciences and establishing a
foundation for, as he put it, "a science of man". PCT obviously has
implications for this. If some of Korzybski's claims appear at odds with PCT,
I will not feel happy about leaving inconsistencies lie. I will want to
examine and revise what I can, based on applying a scientific attitude in the
best way I can.

Way to go man, sounds good to me!

Sometimes as you note, viewpoints or theories [like PCT and Bioenergetics]
seem orthogonal and we deal with it. I personally think that Reich and Lowen
'had their fingers' on some very significant phenomena and techniques. I also
think that until someone finds a way of connecting their work to the body of
accepted science, they will remain on the fringe, however useful some of
their stuff may be. What if PCT does have some useful connection to
Bioenergetics that could help Bioenergitics become more rigorous as a theory?

That would indeed be great. I worked on it a little but couldn't make
the connection.

Having seen enough of the CSG archive material, I feel loath to join the
chorus of those who in discovering PCT then decide they need to tell you guys
that I or my favorite thinker, theory etc. had already been there. As I
said, Korzybski was moving towards but didn't grasp with any exactness the
mechanism of hierachical control by negative feedback. If you feel that I
ever try to fit the round peg of PCT in the square hole of something else
where it doesn't fit, then by all means say something. My primary intention
here is to learn PCT from the experts.

Enough,

Bruce Kodish

Really glad to have you aboard, Bruce

Best, Dick R.

[From Tim Carey (980824.2225)]

I saw a couple of clients again today. The first was the 15 year old boy
with anger control problems. Last week he had described a dancing activity
that he likes to perform in front of crowds and said how accepting he was
of people acting irritatingly in the crowd. In school, however, he reacts
violently to fairly minor irritations. Today we chatted about this again
for a while and when I asked him what he thought about this situation he
said he thought that it was ridiculous to see to situations so differently
and he thought that it seemed really obvious that he should be able to
handle school irritations the way he handles Lion Dancing irritations, it
had just never occurred to him before. This was the client who I had
previously found it really difficult to do MOL with, he just didn't seem to
get the idea of going up a level, and would look really confused when I'd
ask him a "level" kind of question.

The other person I saw today was the woman with anger problems who has been
in lots of violent relationships. Again, we chatted for a while and then
she told me: "You know, I don't think I've ever been me. I've always been
what someone else wanted me to be". When I asked her about this she said
she thought it was time to have a "rebirth" and to begin being the "me" she
wants to be. She went on to say that other people had been trying to teach
her for a long time and this time she would be her own teacher.

In both these session we seem to "chat" for ages about what to me seemed
like nothing much at all, but then once they went up a level they seemed to
go up a coupl quite quickly. I wonder if the chatting in the beginning
continues until they feel comfortable.

Regards,

Tim

[From Bill Powers (980824.0750 MDT)]

Tim Carey (980824.2225)--

I saw a couple of clients again today. The first was the 15 year old boy
with anger control problems.

.............

The other person I saw today was the woman with anger problems who has been
in lots of violent relationships.

...............

In both these session we seem to "chat" for ages about what to me seemed
like nothing much at all, but then once they went up a level they seemed to
go up a coupl quite quickly. I wonder if the chatting in the beginning
continues until they feel comfortable.

This is just how I imagine a proper MOL session going. You chat about
whatever the client wants to focus on, and when the opportunity comes up
you try to direct attention up a level (if that's even needed --
experienced clients probably need little more than for you to say, "Um
..."). I really appreciate the attitude you're showing now -- sort of an
amazed acceptance of what seems to be happening. That is sure a long way
from Playing Doctor.

Best,

Bill P.

[From Tim Carey (980825.0610)]

[From Bill Powers (980824.0750 MDT)]

you try to direct attention up a level (if that's even needed --
experienced clients probably need little more than for you to say, "Um
...").

It's amazing that you should say this Bill. Last night with the female
client I had a sense that I wasn't "doing" anything. A couple of times I
can remember thinking to myself "All I've said so far is 'Uh huh'".

Thanks,

Tim

[From Tim Carey (980826.2005)]

I had another session with the chap tonight who can't make decisions
because he spends a lot of time looking at both sides of everything. It was
fascinating to watch him in action. He literally thinks this way with
everything. Even when we were talking about this pattern, he would do it.
He had no trouble recognising that he did it, in fact he identified it for
me. When I asked him early in the session what he thought about this
pattern he said "Well on the one hand it's good because I can be relaxed
and easy going but on the other hand it's bad because I can't make a
decision."

This session was different to the others I've had so far in that he seemed
to go up a level a few times but would come straight back down again and we
seemed to switch subjects a few times. At times I got the sense that I was
pushing too hard.

At one point, after we'd been talking for a while and I asked him what he
thought about the situation he'd just described he said "It's pitiful. I
can't stand it. I just hate accepting that I don't have the ability to do
it." These were the kinds of comments he would make when he typically went
up a level, so I guess it's no surprise that he didn't want to stay there
very long.

At the moment he says that he sees the two extremes as "hard core
discipline" and "easy going" and he is concerned that he won't live his
ideal life if he is too easy going and doesn't have enough hard core
discipline.

Regards,

Tim

[From Bill Powers (980826.1002 MDT)]

Tim Carey (980826.2005) --

I had another session with the chap tonight who can't make decisions
because he spends a lot of time looking at both sides of everything. It was
fascinating to watch him in action. He literally thinks this way with
everything.

If it weren't so hard for him, it would be funny. Stick with it, I think
he'll work his way through it.

At the moment he says that he sees the two extremes as "hard core
discipline" and "easy going" and he is concerned that he won't live his
ideal life if he is too easy going and doesn't have enough hard core
discipline.

If course he won't live his ideal life, either, if he has too much
hard-core discipline and no easy going, right?

So just keep asking him about hard core discipline, easy-going life, hard
core discipline, easy-going life, and trying to get him talking about the
fact that he wants both. You might throw in "ideal life", too. Maybe "tell
me about the ideal life" will do it. Does it consist of hard-core
discipline AND easy going?. Hmm. Tell me about hard-core discipline and
easy going at the same time.

Best,

Bill P.

[From Tim Carey (980827.0558)]

[From Bill Powers (980826.1002 MDT)]

>fascinating to watch him in action. He literally thinks this way with
>everything.

If it weren't so hard for him, it would be funny. Stick with it, I think
he'll work his way through it.

Agreed, on both counts.

If course he won't live his ideal life, either, if he has too much
hard-core discipline and no easy going, right?

Right. Good thought.

So just keep asking him about hard core discipline, easy-going life, hard
core discipline, easy-going life, and trying to get him talking about the
fact that he wants both. You might throw in "ideal life", too. Maybe

"tell

me about the ideal life" will do it. Does it consist of hard-core
discipline AND easy going?. Hmm. Tell me about hard-core discipline and
easy going at the same time.

I was just looking over a previous post from you, unfortunately I reread it
after my session with this guy and not before. I noticed there that you
mentioned asking him to describe the pattern. Upon reflection, what I did
in the last session was to talk more about all the different scenarios
where he uses this pattern. I think it may have been far more profitable to
ask him to describe the pattern as you suggested .... Oh well, there's
always next week.

Thanks for the comments,

Tim

i.kurtzer (980826. 2000)
[From Tim Carey (980826.2005)]

I had another session with the chap tonight who can't make decisions
because he spends a lot of time looking at both sides of everything. It was
fascinating to watch him in action. He literally thinks this way with
everything. Even when we were talking about this pattern, he would do it.
He had no trouble recognising that he did it, in fact he identified it for
me. When I asked him early in the session what he thought about this
pattern he said "Well on the one hand it's good because I can be relaxed
and easy going but on the other hand it's bad because I can't make a
decision."

Tim, this is a really neat scenario you have here. It seems that simply
talking about something does not render you "up" a level. He could talk about
his "considering all options"/W by considering all of W's options!!?? Its
seems not too dissimilar to:
            PPPPPPPP
                   P
                   P
                   P

Here there is similairity at a global and local scale--similar type at both
scales. This is a valid distinction, but it should not be equated with
heirarchical perception.

Instead of "passively" questioning the person--which could lead to the
global/local contrast, rather than up--ask a question directed to the level
just above what its being currently discussed. For example, i would consider
the "pattern" of your client's to be at the program level. Since the
principle level is hypothetically right above the program level, ask how W
fits in to the principle level in such a way that W's answers CANNOT fit, but
W+1's do.
I am quite sure this is easier said than done.

i.

Tim, I forget why this guy is coming to see you. Is it because he can't make
decisions?

I second the comments which Bill made. Have you explained the MOL to this man?
If you tell him: Talk about ______ and let's see what comes up, will he do it
because he understands that this is the way the MOL works? Is he tuned into
looking for background stuff as he is talking? Is he tuned into the idea of
switching topics if he notices background stuff?

Sometimes, If I think that I notice something in the background, I will say and
ask the person: I think I am noticeing _________in the background, is it OK if
we switch topics and talk about that?
In the case of this man, from the little that you told us, I am sensing the
idea of "I must be perfect, I must not make any errors."

Your sense of pushing too hard to go up is a possible background thought. If we
were doing the MOL, I might say: Talk about pusheing too hard.

You made the comment that this man would go seem to go up a level but then come
down. What do you make of this?

I would encourage you to tape the sessions in order to have a record to study
later. This would allow you to replay the parts in which you thought that some
kind of therapy movement took place. It is probably going to be the only way
that we make progress with MOL. Things go by too fast in therapy. Our memory
is too fallible.

Timothy A Carey wrote:

···

From: David Goldstein
Subject: Re: MOL (Tim Carey;980826.2005)
Date: 8/26/98

[From Tim Carey (980826.2005)]

I had another session with the chap tonight who can't make decisions
because he spends a lot of time looking at both sides of everything. It was
fascinating to watch him in action. He literally thinks this way with
everything. Even when we were talking about this pattern, he would do it.
He had no trouble recognising that he did it, in fact he identified it for
me. When I asked him early in the session what he thought about this
pattern he said "Well on the one hand it's good because I can be relaxed
and easy going but on the other hand it's bad because I can't make a
decision."

This session was different to the others I've had so far in that he seemed
to go up a level a few times but would come straight back down again and we
seemed to switch subjects a few times. At times I got the sense that I was
pushing too hard.

At one point, after we'd been talking for a while and I asked him what he
thought about the situation he'd just described he said "It's pitiful. I
can't stand it. I just hate accepting that I don't have the ability to do
it." These were the kinds of comments he would make when he typically went
up a level, so I guess it's no surprise that he didn't want to stay there
very long.

At the moment he says that he sees the two extremes as "hard core
discipline" and "easy going" and he is concerned that he won't live his
ideal life if he is too easy going and doesn't have enough hard core
discipline.

Regards,

Tim

[From Tim Carey (980827.1735)]

From: David Goldstein

Tim, I forget why this guy is coming to see you. Is it because he can't

make

decisions?

Yep, basically. I think he had some anxiety problems when he was younger
and he has seen mental health professionals on and off since he was 14
(he's now 20) when he started refusing to go to school.

I second the comments which Bill made. Have you explained the MOL to this

man?

Yep.

If you tell him: Talk about ______ and let's see what comes up, will he

do it

because he understands that this is the way the MOL works? Is he tuned

into

looking for background stuff as he is talking? Is he tuned into the idea

of

switching topics if he notices background stuff?

He says he has lots and lots of background thoughts. Typically they seem to
be the alternative views to the ones he is at that moment expressing. At
least that's what he reports.

Sometimes, If I think that I notice something in the background, I will

say and

ask the person: I think I am noticeing _________in the background, is it

OK if

we switch topics and talk about that?
In the case of this man, from the little that you told us, I am sensing

the

idea of "I must be perfect, I must not make any errors."

Yep there certainly seems to be an element of that in it.

You made the comment that this man would go seem to go up a level but

then come

down. What do you make of this?

The few times he went up he expressed the idea that his life was pitiful. I
probably think at the moment that he doesn't want to spend very long
considering his pitiful life.

I would encourage you to tape the sessions in order to have a record to

study

later. This would allow you to replay the parts in which you thought that

some

kind of therapy movement took place. It is probably going to be the only

way

that we make progress with MOL. Things go by too fast in therapy. Our

memory

is too fallible.

Yep, that's a great idea. I have his permission to video the session so
I'll start doing that.

Thanks,

Tim

[From Tim Carey (980827.1745)]

i.kurtzer (980826. 2000)

Instead of "passively" questioning the person--which could lead to the
global/local contrast, rather than up--ask a question directed to the

level

just above what its being currently discussed. For example, i would

consider

the "pattern" of your client's to be at the program level. Since the
principle level is hypothetically right above the program level, ask how

W

fits in to the principle level in such a way that W's answers CANNOT fit,

but

W+1's do.

This is an interesting perspective Isaac and one I wouldn't mind giving a
try. Can you be a bit more specific with your suggestion? What do the "W's"
refer to? One of his problems at the moment is that he doesn't exercise.
He says he really wants to and he likes doing it, he's even worked out an
exercise program ... he just never seems to have the time. How would you
apply the above to this situation?

I am quite sure this is easier said than done.

I'll let you know :wink:

Thanks,

Tim

If you think that the idea of "My life is pitiful" is something which is so
negative that he doesn't want to stay centered on it, how about: asking him:
Talk about the kind of life you would like to have which would not be pitiful.
What would that be like? Talk about when your life has "not been pitiful".
Another thought is to ask him: Talk about that part of you which is saying "My
life is pitiful."

Video taping is great. Audio taping is OK and cheaper.

It seems that people are making "up a level comments" all the time. It happens
when they are talking with people close to them whom they trust. It happens
when they are self-disclosing. The topic of self-disclosing is one we should
look at, I think. The topic of lying may also have something worthwhile to look
at. If a person lies, then they are aware of something which they don't want
another person to know about. Doesn't it imply awareness at a higher level?

···

From: David Goldstein
Subject: Re: MOL [From Tim Carey (980827.1735)]
Date: 8/27/98

[From Tim Carey (980827.2040)]

I had another session today with the woman who has the troublesome 3 year
old twins and has had significant problems in the past. I really felt that
this session didn't go very well at all in terms of MOL. It didn't seem
that there was any "going up" at all and I found it hard to find any real
focus. There did seem to be times when she would talk about the idea that
she was constantly being told what to do by others and she didn't like that
and people had also suggested to her that she not take her children
shopping until they were older but she didn't see why she should have to go
out shopping without the children. We talked around this idea for a while
but there didn't seem to be any movement "up" at all. Perhaps my
expectations are too high. I really like David's suggestion of watching
some videos of these sessions to get another idea of what might be going
on. I probably feel like I'm at a bit of an impasse.

Sorry the news isn't more positive,

Regards,

Tim

[From Tim Carey (980827.22200]

···

----------

From: David Goldstein

It seems that people are making "up a level comments" all the time. It

happens

when they are talking with people close to them whom they trust. It

happens

when they are self-disclosing. The topic of self-disclosing is one we

should

look at, I think. The topic of lying may also have something worthwhile

to look

at. If a person lies, then they are aware of something which they don't

want

another person to know about. Doesn't it imply awareness at a higher

level?

Interesting comments David. Obviously there's much work to be done.

Thanks for your thoughts,

Tim

[From Bill Powers (980827.1218 MDT)]

Tim Carey (980827.2040)--

I had another session today with the woman who has the troublesome 3 year
old twins and has had significant problems in the past. I really felt that
this session didn't go very well at all in terms of MOL. It didn't seem
that there was any "going up" at all and I found it hard to find any real
focus. There did seem to be times when she would talk about the idea that
she was constantly being told what to do by others and she didn't like
that and people had also suggested to her that she not take her children
shopping until they were older but she didn't see why she should have to
go out shopping without the children. We talked around this idea for a
while but there didn't seem to be any movement "up" at all. Perhaps my
expectations are too high. I really like David's suggestion of watching
some videos of these sessions to get another idea of what might be going
on. I probably feel like I'm at a bit of an impasse.

Why is this woman coming to see you? To cure others of doing things she
doesn't like?

Best I can do right now,

Bill P.