From Caroline Young (17 Jan 97 21.10 CST)
I want to let you all know that I haven't forgotten my resolution to post
regularly! : ) We have had unusually bad weather down here in Houston, and the
power in our apartment was out for two days due to an ice storm. (Dad went to
Phoenix just in time!) I had to wait to get back on-line. Those of you who
live in colder climates would probably laugh at us down here, because no one
knows how to cope with the cold, especially if there is ice involved!! The
freeways are even scarier than usual, because everyone tries to drive the way
they always do. Naturally this leads to a few fender benders! I just stayed in
and bundled up because school was cancelled.
Anyway, I was happy to see that there has been some discussion going. Joe, you
were brave and jumped right in. Good for you!
On Fri, 17 Jan 1997, my dad, <tbourbon@sprynet.com>, responded to Joe's (
"Joseph T. Sierzenga III" <ladys@alpha.shianet.org> ) message of the 16th. I
want to respond to both!
Joe:
Our elementary goal states, "Students will demonstrate personal
responsibility." What does
this really mean?
Tom:
My first guess would be that, in the case of RTP, "being responsible" means
functioning as a
living control system, in such a manner that you are not disrupting teachers
when they teach, and > not disrupting or harming other students when they are at
school. Those are the stated ideals in > Ed's books.
I agree with my dad that this is how "being responsible " is defined in RTP
terms. Ed discusses in "Discipline for Home and School" the difference between
behaviors that disturb the rights of others and those that are merely
undesirable. For example, if a student forgets to turn in homework, this may be
undesirable to the teacher yet it is not a behavior that infringes on the rights
of others in the class. I think this is an interesting point to bring up
because I think this relates to Joe's concern about the use of the word
"responsible." I will explain!
Joe:
I consider myself a responsible person but at times find myself being accused
of just the
opposite.
Tom:
That sounds familiar. I think it is part of living among other people, who
don't perceive our
perceptions of ourselves and they don't experience the perceptions that we are
controlling for.
What they see are the outward appearances of our actions, which we do not
perceive
ourselves. Those observers also see many of the unintended consequences
produced by our > own actions -- consequences we might not even know exist. I
believe the comments from
people who observe us are a big part of the process by which we reorganize
ourselves (learn)
so that we can control our perceptions while not disturbing others while they
control their own
perceptions.
I think that Joe is concerned about the use of the word responsible as it
relates to students following the rules. (Joe, don't let me put words in your
mouth! : ) ) As teachers and administrators, when we talk about students
being responsible, we usually mean that we want students to behave in a way that
makes our classroom or school match our own perceptions of what a "good" school
should look like. We are often using our own observations of the outward
behaviors of students to determine why the students acted in a certain way.
Yet we are not inside the heads of our students anymore than they are in ours.
We do not experience the perceptions they are controlling for. I frequently
work with children age 3 to 5 who have physical or mental handicaps. I kept
thinking that one three year old boy was either angry or acting defiant because
he was throwing toys. Now, this little boy is totally blind, and I had not had
much experience with blind children before. The other teacher in the room told
me about some training she had attended recently where she learned that very
young blind children often throw things because they have little physical
concept of the space around them. That is very different than throwing out of
anger, and my response to him is now different. I still do not know if that is
exactly what he is doing, as he has limited verbal communication, but the idea
of whether he is "behaving responsibly" has taken on some new meaning for me.
I think that the important thing about RTP is that teachers and students learn
about how all living creatures function as control systems. If a teacher can
use the questions to help a student see that he or she is infringing on the
rights of others, the behavior may stop right there. As Dad said, the student
is able to reorganize (learn) and find another way to get what he or she wants.
That student may not have been aware of the apperances of his actions. Along
those lines, the teacher also is able to reorganize. I have found that my
experiences teaching in special education classrooms have changed my personal
perception of the "ideal classroom." I am much more tolerant of noise and
movement. I have had a collegue who literally screamed at a student for
standing up while working, because she felt that in her ideal room all students
should sit. I finally decided that as long as my students were learning and not
disturbing others, it didn't bother me if they stood, sat at a desk, or sat on
the floor. Was the behavior merely annoying, or did it truly infringe on the
rights of others?
I think that in schools where teachers and administrators really understand PCT,
the idea of "behaving responsibly" comes down to whether or not students, or
staff members, are functioning without disrupting those around them.
Dad, let me tell you what I think Joe meant when he said :
Being perceived as a "Responsible Person" is relative to the reference
perceptions that are
being controlled by others.
He said that "personal responsibility" is relative to the reference perception
being controlled at the time. To me this means that I know whether I am doing
what I need to, because I know what I am controlling for. (Ex. I ran the red
light because I had to get you to the hospital right away.) Yet being perceived
as a "responsible person" by others depends not on your reference perceptions
and what you are controlling for, but on the outward actions that the other
person sees. (Ex. I ran a red light, so I am not a "responsible" person,
meaning not a good person.) To me, it seems that this is almost two different
meanings for the word "responsible": 1) answerable or accountable for something,
2) reliable or dependable. Do you see the slight difference in the way the word
is used, or am I just reading too much into this? : )
Let me know what you think. Joe, was this what you were thinking about, or did
I just take us off on a wild tangent? I put words in your mouth twice in one
post!
Behaving responsibly, as always, ; )
Caroline