[From Bruce Nevin (2000.10.26.1832 EDT)]
Rick Marken (2000.10.18.1020)--
> The _only_ solution to interpersonal conflict may be conflict
> avoidance.
Bruce Nevin (2000.10.18.1604 EDT) --
> I suggest a study of _Getting to Yes: Negotiating agreement
> without giving in_, by Roger Fisher and William Ury of the Harvard
> Negotiation Project, for insight into and examples of going up a
> level in interpersonal conflicts.
From Rick Marken (2000.10.18.1400) --
Yes. Negotiation is, indeed, one way to solve interpersonal
conflict without avoiding it. Very good point. Though I don't
see how negotiation can work without both parties "giving in",
at least to some extent. Could you give a quick example of a
negotiated agreement where neither party "gives in"?
Bruce Nevin (2000.10.18.1955 EDT)--
[The example of Tom and the Insurance Adjuster. This is the description of an actual interaction, by the way, not a made-up story.]
Rick Marken (2000.10.18.1400)--
When I suggested that the only solution to interpersonal conflict
may be conflict avoidance, I was thinking of cases of inter-
personal conflict where the conflicting goals seem to be non-
negotiable; scientific conflicts, for example, such as the one
where the goal of one party was to hear the other agree that
the sun moves around a stationary earth while the goal of the
other party is to hear the first agree that the earth moves
around a stationary sun. Do Fisher and Ury suggest methods
Galileo could have used to to get the Pope to "Yes. The earth
moves around the sun"? I think the only way for Galileo and/or
the Pope to have solved that conflict was to have avoided it
(as Galileo eventually did).
I agree that a conflict of theories or paradigms in science is not a matter for negotiation. That is in part because a conflict between theories or paradigms is not an interpersonal conflict. However, to the extent that interpersonal conflicts are involved in a scientific conflict (conflicts over resources, prestige, students, etc.), those conflicts may be amenable to negotiation. A good first step to resolving a scientific conflict would be to identify any interpersonal conflicts that may be contributing heat to the fire and then to try to resolve them on their own merits, independent of the scientific issues involved in the conflict of theories etc.
The conflict between Galileo and the church was not a scientific conflict. No one pretended that church dogma was a theory or paradigm or finding of science. This is the most obvious of several reasons that Galileo's conflict with the Church is a poor analogy for explaining PCT's limited recognition.
However, the interpersonal conflicts in which Galileo was embroiled, which led to his loss of patronage in an era when patronage was all, could very well provide instructive analogies.