[From Bill Powers (991115.1115 MDT)]
Bruce Gregory (991115.1713 EST)--
Bill:
Presenting a child
with two options, neither of which the child wants, is coercive because if
the child refuses both options, the application of force is the only next
alternative in the design of the system. And to say that the child is
responsible for what the teacher is about to do is dishonest.
Bruce:
As I recall, this is pretty much what happens. The student is asked what the
rule is about disrupting. I have no idea where the "I see you have chosen"
variant comes. It's not part of the process Ed and Tim describe as far as I
can tell.
Examples are found in the revised and expanded edition of Ford's
_Discipline for home and school_. See, for example, the card image on page
204 which is designed for bus drivers. The choice offered is "DO YOU WANT
TO STAY WHERE YOU ARE OR MOVE TO THE FRONT OF THE BUS?" If the child
continues to disrupt, Ford advises the driver,
"Then say I SEE YOU HAVE CHOSEN THE FRONT SEAT."
On page 31, the author (Ed) says "If children refuse to obey the rules of
the classroom or the rules at the dinner table, then they must always be
given alternative choices . ... Therefore children who are disruptive in a
classroom or a home should be _asked_ whether they want to stay in the
classroom or wherever they are in the home and obey the rules, or leave."
Notice that the children are not asked what they want to do; they are given
two choices and asked which one they choose (one is to leave home,
according to the above). "Neither one" is not an allowed choice.
On page 32, in italics:"Whenever children violate the rules and standards
of wherever they are, they should be given the choice of being allowed to
stay and obey the rules and standards, or leave where they are, reducing
their social involvement until they are willing to commit to following the
rules and standards and to make a plan to resolve similar problems in the
future."
On page 34: "At home, when children are upset, they should be given the
choice of calming down and obeying the rules, or removing themselves from
the social environment of the family."
Ed sees a key aspect of the process as consisting of taking away important
privileges like being with friends or family and then restoring them when
the child makes a committment to follow the rules. After the above quote,
for example, Ed says "For those children who are in the first or second
grade or are younger, depending on the strength of the child/parent
relationships, the alternative choice should be to sit in a chair, within
view of the family or a parent but still far enough removed to allow them
to sense the loss of the privilege of being with the family. ... The closer
the relationship that children perceive they have with their parents, the
more willing they will be to make or accept the choice necessitated by
their refusal to obey rules and to get along with the rest of the family."
In chapter 8 and chapter 9, it is clear that Ed takes a strictly S-R view
toward making children behave: deprive them of something they value, then
give it back when they agree to obey the rules. From this and many other
examples, I concluded long ago that if Ed's program works well (and I
believe it does), it works in spite of the reasons he gives and the methods
he proposes.
Ed considers children subordinate to adults. He never mentions the
possibility that "the rules" are arbitrary and that some might be resisted
for good reasons. It is not the child's place to question the rules; the
child is to be obedient, and will not be allowed to continue disobeying the
rules, and that is that.
It is also clear that Ed doesn't want to appear coercive or to see himself
that way. There are elaborate circumlocutions, such as the above "choice
necessitated by their refusal to obey rules and to get along with the rest
of the family." Note how the adult does not take responsibility for forcing
this choice; the choice is "necessitated" by what the child does. This
denial of responsibility recurs throughout Ed's writings.
I don't want to rub this in. Ed's program is a marvel; I simply don't
believe it works for the reasons he gives. When actually interacting with
people, Ed doesn't try to control them; even in his own family, he is the
only vegetarian, and puts no pressure on anyone else to adopt that way of
life. He does not push his religion onto people, or think less of anyone
who prefers different beliefs. He is humble and willing to learn, and he
does his best to grasp and live the concepts that are basic to PCT. The
_example_ Ed sets for how to interact with others is far more attractive
than the processes he describes in words.
Tom Bourbon is ever-present in Ed's presentations, and supplements his
talks with his own teaching of PCT principles. Tim Carey, when he is
present, does the same. People who learn Ed's methods learn much more than
he teaches in words; they learn from watching how he operates, and they
learn PCT at the same time from the best teachers in the business. So what
they learn is not necessarily what Ed writes down in his books and
demonstrates in presentations.
The actual program, as it is carried out in practice, is not necessarily
the same program that Ed describes in his books.
If it were not for Ed Ford, the RTP program would not exist at all, and the
many schools that have benefited from it would still be following the old
ways. Ed has shown great wisdom and humility in enlisting the aid of people
who can help him master PCT and apply it in his program. And he supplied
the essential ingredient, which is a way of structuring the school society
to make it possible for teachers to abandon the futile effort to control
the children. Even if there are still coercive aspects in his program, I
believe that their deleterious effects are greatly outweighed by the
successful application of PCT principles to social interactions. As time
goes by, I think the RTP program will continue to evolve, shedding aspects
that are not actually helpful and improving everyone's skills in dealing
with school problems effectively.
I think my view of the RTP program is balanced, realistic, and fair. I'm
not a PR flack promoting the program, and I think that my attempt to see it
as it really is makes my support of it more, not less, credible. I would
tell any school system to put the RTP program into effect immediately. Even
if it isn't perfect, it is far and away the best school discipline program
anywhere.
Best,
Bill P.