[From Kenny Kitzke (2000.08.13.1200 EDT)]
The following is an account of the behavior of a fictitious person named Jim.
It is meant to be an example of actual behavior. Behavior that is credible
based upon real life experiences and the thoughts of real people.
Bill Powers has agreed to explain such credible behavior from his HPCT models
of how human behavior works. Anyone else on CSGNet who wishes to comment on
and analyze this account is certainly welcome.
*******The Case of Jim
Jim run's a successful sporting goods retail outlet business. He started his
first small shop some 20 years ago, the same year that his wife Jill gave
birth to their only child, Jimmy (James, Jr.).
The business has steadily grown into a chain of large stores while Jimmy has
grown up to be a young man and the apple of Jim's eye. Jimmy is about to
receive his MBA from Harvard. He is also a sports nut. An outstanding
athlete, Jimmy was the quarterback of the most successful Harvard football
team in decades.
Jimmy has worked at his dad's stores every summer since high school. He
contributed many good ideas that helped Jim grow the business and modernize
it by adding computer technology to improve its operations. With the
business getting larger and more complex each year, Jim longs for Jimmy to
join him in running the business. Jim even dreams about the day when he will
retire and Jimmy will take over the business following in his dad's footsteps.
But, Jim's life took a sudden turn for the worse at 4:00 AM, March 12, 2000.
The phone rang. Jill took the call but immediately woke up Jim saying, "Its
the Boston Police Department." The news was shocking. Jimmy's roommate
found Jimmy dead in his off-campus condo at 2:00 AM and called 911. The
cause of his death was unknown. The middle-of-the-night news devastated his
parents with sorrow. Jim and Jill cried uncontrollably in each others arms
until dawn. Red-eyed, and downhearted, they boarded the first available
plane to Boston that Sunday to identify the body of their lifeless son.
The grief Jim felt was especially intense and lingered on. Jill seemed to
find solace in her Christian religion and the comforting words of her pastor.
Jim had no use for any of that religious stuff. He could not comprehend
Jill's increasingly peaceful acceptance of Jimmy's death given that the god
she believed in had allowed such a tragedy to impact their lives.
At Jimmy's funeral, as the casket was being lowered into his grave, Jim
passed out. Jill feared it was a heart attack. But, by the time the medics
arrived, Jim was already coming back to consciousness.
Jim remained a basket case and could not keep his mind on the business at
hand. He turned over the operational responsibilities for the chain to his
most senior and trusted store manager. Jim felt he needed to get away, by
himself, and come to grips with this unexpected turn of events. He sought
solace at his lake cottage where he hoped to clear his mind in the cool,
crisp, spring mountain air.
Little that Jim could do seemed to lift his spirit. His countenance remained
low. When Jill called to explain what the autopsy had revealed, Jim sunk
even lower. Jimmy had died from a drug overdose. It appeared that it was
intentional, but no suicide note or other evidence had been found to confirm
that cause.
Jimmy had not said or did anything to indicate to anyone that he was in any
such distress. His assigned professor confirmed that he had rejected Jimmy's
master's thesis which would prevent him from graduating in the spring with
his friends. But, he told him that with a little extra work over the summer
term, Jimmy should be able to upgrade his thesis and graduate by the fall.
Taking this all in, Jim began to look at his own life. Had his hopes for
Jimmy's graduation, the party he had already scheduled at the country club
and the plans for Jimmy's new president's office at his business headquarters
possibly contributed to a depressed state of mind in his own son? Had his
failure to keep close to his son while dealing with all the pressures from
the business kept Jimmy from calling and talking his situation through with
his dad? Surely, a delayed graduation could have been resolved without a
problem.
As Jim pondered these questions about his own life, he also began to consider
his own mortality. What if his fainting at Jimmy's funeral had been a fatal
heart attack? What would happen to all his business and retirement plans?
What would happen to Jill if he died suddenly? What was the purpose of his
life after all?
Jim yearned to find a meaning for his life. One that could return his mind
and heart to a stable and content state so he could return to his wife and
run his business and live in peace. After much reflection, he made a list of
his main goals in life. Goals he believed would make his son Jimmy proud of
his dad. He set his mind to how he could become a different person.
He returned home to Jill with his new beliefs and goals. He was eager to
explain them to her. When he did, Jill smiled and said, "I love you Jim."
"I think Jimmy would be happy if he could see his new dad." Jim breathed a
sigh and was finally able to deal with Jimmy's death. Jim felt a sense of
control had returned to life.
Jim sold the sports retail business and the house. He and Jill retired at
their cottage where they both voluntarily help out two days a week at a
nearby orphanage operated by Jill's church. Both feel at peace and are
content with what they do in these new lives.
I would be most interested in a possible/plausible HPCT explanation of the
following behaviors of the people in this account:
1) Jim and Jill's uncontrollable crying after the call
2) Jill is soon consoled whereas Jim remains grieved
3) Jim faints at Jimmy's funeral
4) Jimmy takes an overdose of drugs to end his life
5) Jim sinks lower in his countenance after learning of Jimmy's apparent
suicide
6) Jim's inability to return and run the business
7) Jim decides to seek some quiet solace to clear his mind
8) Jim begins to focus on his own life and mortality
9) Jim sets some different goals for his life
10) Jim feels back in control of his life after Jill's affirmation of him
11) Jim and Jill retire and both are content with what they do
Please feel free to comment on these observable and experienced behaviors one
at a time. I realize that more information might have to be included, or
speculated upon, to give an answer. Do that as necessary to provide a HPCT
explanation.
Kenny
