[From Rick Marken (991129.1510)]
Kenny Kitzke (991129.1000)--
1) Is saying "I see you have chosen" dishonest?
Of course it is, if you say it _knowing_ that you
haven't seen the person chose what you say you saw
him chose.
Could there possibly be more accurate expressions?
In the RTP situation where the teacher is supposed to
say "I see you have chosen to go to the RTC room" it
would be more accurate for the teacher to say "Please
go to the RTC room now".
2) Is saying "I see you have chosen" disrespectful to
the student?
I think so. The student to whom it's said may not think
so but it strikes me as disrespectful. It does not seem
to respect the student's will. It verbally attributes the
questioner's will (that the student go to the RTC) to the
student.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if you Rick, could admit that
using such an expression could or could not be
disrespectful?
I can admit that. I admit that people can say "I see you
have chosen to go to the RTC room" without being
disrespectful (that is, without intending to communicate
disrespect). It's like a parent who gives a spanking to a
kid while saying "I'm doing this because I respect you".
I think some parents _do_ think that giving a spanking
shows their respect for the child.
Isn't that a determination which only the student can make?
No. It's a determination anyone can make.
Are you being true to PCT with your argument?
Of course. All this is based on the most basic tenets of PCT.
Could all PCTers agree that attempts to control the
behavior (actions and perceptions) of other people is likely
to lead to frustration
Yes. PCT certainly shows that attempts to control behavior
will lead to conflict. I think RTP works because the teachers
are not required to control the kids _in the classroom_; they
don't have to spend their time trying to make the kids sit
quietly or do their lesson or whatever. The teachers only
control for keeping disruptive kids out of class. This takes
up very little class time so the teacher can spend his/her
time teaching instead of fighting.
can PCTers use their knowledge of a unique theory of
psychology to reduce their own inner conflict and external
conflict created with other people whether intended or not?
Sure. We can stop the external conflict with RTP people by
not trying to get them to agree with us. I no longer intend
to try to get them to agree with me. If I do any more
"preaching" about RTP from now on it will only be to the
PCT choir (W. T. Powers, Choral master).
Best
Rick
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