[Bruce Nevin (2001.11.16 09:07 PST)]
My, my, what a tangled web!
Kenny Kitzke (2001.11.14 0915 EST)--
>As an intended constructive suggestion, you as President could implore CSGNet
>participants to stay away from personally evaluating people based upon your
>own impressions.
When I was first nominated for President I was assured that the sole duty is to preside at the annual meeting. In the interest of continuing to have Presidents in the future I vote against expanding the role.
Wouldn't a moderator for CSGnet be in a double bind?. To do this imploring that someone refrain from mind reading one would have to first do some mind reading.
I think we're condemned to having to learn to moderate ourselves. More below.
Rick Marken (2001.11.14.0840) --
replying to Kenny Kitzke (2001.11.14 0915 EST)
>You are _praising_ Bruce Nevin for doing exactly what you _condemn_
>others for doing. Bruce is judging others (me in this case) as if he knew
>things about them (me) that (according to you) are probably unknowable.
I was reading Bruce Gregory's mind, not yours. You've said that you weren't making a gnomic comment that only the initiated can fully understand -- but I think this means you weren't intending that. You said (2001.11.14.1030) that your intention was "to point to the selective influence of agendas." Whether you intended to or not, the result, to me, was a gnomic comment that only the initiated, or perhaps only yourself, could understand. Recall the distinction between saying and telling. In communication, what others understand plays exactly as large a role as what you intend.
When I guessed Bruce Gregory's intention ("reading his mind" as I put it just now), it must have seemed to you that I was agreeing in that intention. Why else would you (reading my mind) attribute that intention to me?
All this flogging one another for not performing the Test before attributing intentions actually shows why we so frequently ignore the PCT admonition to perform the test when we are communicating with one another. It would bring communication to a standstill. It has almost done so here on a number of occasions.
But maybe the problem is not a failure to perform the Test, but a failure to recognize its performance. Consider: If I attribute an intention to you that is in fact not your intention, is that not a disturbance to a variable that you control?
In fact, this is how humans communicate all the time. (It gets slippery, 'cause sometimes we say "Oh, maybe that is what I was intending, and I didn't realize it." Sometimes we accept attributions without as much awareness even as that. But stick with the more obvious cases first.)
If this is true, then perhaps what we need to do is be more explicit about the intentions that we attribute to another ("I think this is what you mean. Is that right?") and to simply responsive rather than defensive when we reply "No, this is what I mean" or "Yeah, you're right (but also...)" and so on.
What do you think?
Bruce Nevin
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At 10:12 AM 11/14/2001 -0500, Kenneth Kitzke Value Creation Systems wrote: