FW: Wishing for Motivation

[Shannon Williams 2010.08.30 20:00 CST]

I think that this motivational speaker would understand PCT.

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I. Article: Wishing for Motivation.

Wishful thinking doesn't solve problems. But it can transform your
motivation when you are not "in the mood" to do the next task on
your agenda. I stumbled upon this fact while on a long trip.

At a certain point, I thought I should dig into four annual reports I
had brought along. But I felt, "Ugh. I don't want to." As I paused
on that depressing note, I felt a little wistful. I said to myself, "I
wish I were motivated to read those reports. I'd really like to clear
that backlog." (They were the last from a large pile.) Suddenly, I
wanted to finish. I reached for a report, and read them all through
without stopping.

I was surprised by this painless about-face, so I reflected on it later.
Let me explain why it happened and how to replicate that success. I
call the technique, "wishing for motivation."

Wishing "worked" because I was not in serious conflict, just feeling
a little lazy. In that low-key state, I could sense a wisp of desire at
the back of my mind. By "wishing," I gently turned my full
attention to that desire, which in turn triggered good reasons for
reading the reports.

Emotions follow from values. Once those values were front and
center, desire followed.

Don't get me wrong. I wasn't passionately excited to read the
reports. I didn't need to be. Mild interest can overcome
sluggishness.

I turned this observation into a technique: If I notice I'm delaying
getting started on something, I know I need a �nudge. I immediately
set a timer for 3 minutes and do some "thinking on paper" using
these words as prompts:

--I wish I felt motivated to ...
--I would like to feel the way I do when ...
--I wish I were motivated because ...

These prompts ensure you wish for the right thing--to be motivated.
If you wish for the task to go away or for someone else to solve the
problem, you won't trigger a desire to start.

Chiding yourself with "I should want to do this" also won't work.
That's more likely to trigger resistant moans and groans and
contrarian stubbornness.

Once I feel some desire, I'm willing to consider a microscopic step
I could take toward starting.

Here's a literal example, transcribed from my notebook. I went to
lunch in the middle of writing the draft of this article. When I came
back, I knew I should resume writing. But I was feeling post-pizza
lethargy. Ugh. I hesitated, and then I chose to start a timer, open
my journal, and write the following:

"I wish I were in the mood to finish this draft. It's so much easier
to come back when you've reached a definite end point. I wish I
still had that easy feeling [from when I worked on it earlier] of
enjoying telling the story. [I paused with the pen in the air.] I could
spend the rest of these three minutes re-reading."

When the timer rang, I was already hooked. I finished the draft
without delay.

Note that I used an act of will to get started. The timer didn't turn
on by itself. The journal didn't fly to my desk and magically start
recording prose. But I needed only a wee nudge of willpower to
start, not the mighty heave I'd have needed to overcome true
resistance.

This "wishing for motivation" method won't succeed when you
have a serious conflict about starting. Then you need more powerful
thinking tactics to help you identify the conflict and resolve it so
you can move forward.

But what's the downside of the method? The next time lethargy
strikes, spend three minutes wishing for motivation. Your wish may
come true.

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Thanks for sharing, Shannon.

I'm more of a visual learner, so I prefer to use the circumplex of affect (attached) to refocus my energy. I basically try to visualize myself at the activated (90 degree) vector for a given task.

Cheers,
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Shannon Williams <verbingle@GMAIL.COM> 8/30/2010 9:13 PM >>>

[Shannon Williams 2010.08.30 20:00 CST]

I think that this motivational speaker would understand PCT.

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I. Article: Wishing for Motivation.

Wishful thinking doesn't solve problems. But it can transform your
motivation when you are not "in the mood" to do the next task on
your agenda. I stumbled upon this fact while on a long trip.

At a certain point, I thought I should dig into four annual reports I
had brought along. But I felt, "Ugh. I don't want to." As I paused
on that depressing note, I felt a little wistful. I said to myself, "I
wish I were motivated to read those reports. I'd really like to clear
that backlog." (They were the last from a large pile.) Suddenly, I
wanted to finish. I reached for a report, and read them all through
without stopping.

I was surprised by this painless about-face, so I reflected on it later.
Let me explain why it happened and how to replicate that success. I
call the technique, "wishing for motivation."

Wishing "worked" because I was not in serious conflict, just feeling
a little lazy. In that low-key state, I could sense a wisp of desire at
the back of my mind. By "wishing," I gently turned my full
attention to that desire, which in turn triggered good reasons for
reading the reports.

Emotions follow from values. Once those values were front and
center, desire followed.

Don't get me wrong. I wasn't passionately excited to read the
reports. I didn't need to be. Mild interest can overcome
sluggishness.

I turned this observation into a technique: If I notice I'm delaying
getting started on something, I know I need a nudge. I immediately
set a timer for 3 minutes and do some "thinking on paper" using
these words as prompts:

--I wish I felt motivated to ...
--I would like to feel the way I do when ...
--I wish I were motivated because ...

These prompts ensure you wish for the right thing--to be motivated.
If you wish for the task to go away or for someone else to solve the
problem, you won't trigger a desire to start.

Chiding yourself with "I should want to do this" also won't work.
That's more likely to trigger resistant moans and groans and
contrarian stubbornness.

Once I feel some desire, I'm willing to consider a microscopic step
I could take toward starting.

Here's a literal example, transcribed from my notebook. I went to
lunch in the middle of writing the draft of this article. When I came
back, I knew I should resume writing. But I was feeling post-pizza
lethargy. Ugh. I hesitated, and then I chose to start a timer, open
my journal, and write the following:

"I wish I were in the mood to finish this draft. It's so much easier
to come back when you've reached a definite end point. I wish I
still had that easy feeling [from when I worked on it earlier] of
enjoying telling the story. [I paused with the pen in the air.] I could
spend the rest of these three minutes re-reading."

When the timer rang, I was already hooked. I finished the draft
without delay.

Note that I used an act of will to get started. The timer didn't turn
on by itself. The journal didn't fly to my desk and magically start
recording prose. But I needed only a wee nudge of willpower to
start, not the mighty heave I'd have needed to overcome true
resistance.

This "wishing for motivation" method won't succeed when you
have a serious conflict about starting. Then you need more powerful
thinking tactics to help you identify the conflict and resolve it so
you can move forward.

But what's the downside of the method? The next time lethargy
strikes, spend three minutes wishing for motivation. Your wish may
come true.